31 Weeks: Grateful

27 October 2014

I'm just that - grateful. There has been so much heartache in the lives of so many of my friends I have nothing to express except gratitude in my own life. Sure there are things going on in my life that aren't so great but they pale in comparison to infant loss, premature childbirth, miscarriage, losing a husband in your two week wait and the hard unknowns of infertility. Yes all these horrid things have happened since the first day of October to several people I know. 

I have been wanting to run away from all the bad news I've heard. But God doesn't want us to run and hide yet to stand and bear each other's burdens. Standing in the thick of it with friends and family members through their struggles has a great way of putting perspective in your own life.

I had a few days where I found myself envying the health of my friend's twins. When she lost them I felt devastating grief for her yet gratitude in my own situation because I was reminded it could be worst. A few weeks ago a sister in our TTC community lost her husband in a car accident. Shortly after his death she found out their IVF was successful, she is pregnant. It's been on my mind to complain about how much my husband has been working and how little we see each other, but at least he comes home. This woman conceived her long awaited child who will never know it's father. She's received and lost great loves in the blink of an eye.

I know how easy it is to get wrapped up in your own life. I've done it, I do it - but being intertwined in the lives of others reminds me it's not that bad. I encourage you to look outside of your problems and gain some perspective you may see it's really not as bad as it seems. I've found great joy in holding hands both figuratively and literally with my friends as they navigate through struggles. Our relationships thrive, my friends survive, and God gets so much glory.

About the Pregnancy:

How I'm Feeling? Like a whale! Bloop bloop bloop! I wouldn't change a thing. I felt huge before but that didn't come with a reason. Right now I'm building two humans and it feels awfully good to be chunky for a purpose.  

How far along? 31 weeks.

Babies are the size of:  A pineapple.

Total weight gain: I've requested not to know. I'm eating healthy and believing my body will gain what it needs to feed our babies. New doctor made no comments about my weight. Love him even more!

Maternity clothes?  Yes.

Stretch marks?  None, but skin feels like its riping. Maybe soon?!

Sleep: No sleep, no naps...don't know how I'm surviving.

Exercise: Yes walking to the fridge and to the car before and after appointments.

Miss Anything: Eating a full plate of food and sleeping on my back.

Movement: Yes, constant baby judo and tidal waves...hiccups.

Food cravings: Orange Juice, Ice cold water, sushi....the vegan kind.

Anything making you queasy or sick: Eating too much too fast.

Belly Button In or Out: In but definitely flattening.

Rings On or Off: On.

Labor Signs: Braxton Hicks....still.

Happy or Moody most of the time: Other than a major meltdown Friday night I feel happy. Thankfully my husband forgives me and God does too.

Looking forward to: Maternity pictures that happened this past Saturday!


  1. So much loss. It really is overwhelming. I think the best thing we can do is focus on the positive we have all been blessed with.

    A whale - haha you are so silly!!! Yay for no stretch marks. I can.not.wait to see your maternity pics!

  2. So much sadness lately in the blog world. My heart breaks almost every time I log in and check to see what's up. I am thankful for your gratitude!

    I am so so very excited to maternity pictures! Seriously, I cannot wait!!

  3. You're right, Charity. There are so many things happening to those we love. Like a whirlwind of events at times and often we don't understand, but we know that God is there for us through all of it and it's wonderful to have supportive family and friends through all of life's journey. Good or bad. Being thankful/grateful is a good thing.

    p.s. On a happier note, I look forward to your maternity pictures as well. How did it feel being on the other side of the camera for a change? :-)

  4. Your perspective is beautiful.

  5. You are so right in everything you said girlie! I just love your sweet and kind spirit! xo

    And I can't wait to see pictures :)


  6. Nothing like a dose of tragic news to really keep things in perspective. I'm glad it's doing that for you, even though I feel horrible for those experiences bad news. It's so easy to say who is me until you remind yourself of what someone else is going through. Enjoy your shoot! You are going to be beautiful!

  7. I can't imagine going through some of those things... I am definitely with you. Despite the constant nausea and sickness and overall uncomfortableness I still feel SO grateful.

  8. Wow! What perspective, Charity. Thank you for the reminder that it can always be worse and we need to be grateful for where we are and what we have. Can you share the blogger that lost her husband? I can't get her out of my head and want to show some support to her during this trying time.

  9. Oh my.... your friend who lost her husband will be in my prayers. I can't even imagine. I agree with Jessah above. I'd love to be able to show her some support right now if she's able and willing. Please let her know that people are praying for her...

  10. Yes ma'am this is a very good reminder to be grateful. Thank you!

  11. Such a great post. You put into words that which I've struggled to verbalize.

  12. I've followed your blog off and on but have obviously not been here in a LONG time. I had no idea that you're pregnant! I'm so, so happy for you!!! I totally remember that ripping skin feeling. Oh man...hang in there.


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