Dating Yourself

24 February 2014

So many times we get caught up in the routine of every day life. Work. Family. Friends. Church. School. Small Group. Husband. Kids. Appointments. We do this routine for months or maybe even years before we finally become burnt out without a clue why.

After talking to a few friends and family members the running theme was trying to find a way to break free from routine. There is absolutely nothing wrong with routine but sometimes we let our routines consume us. Sometimes in the midst of routine we lose ourselves. People often express this need to decompress by saying "I need a vacation", vegging out to hours of tv, or thinking they need more sleep. You might actually need a vacation but more than anything you need to have your needs met. Your need for rest, spiritual revival, peace, or adventure.

In realizing this, I am making more of an effort to carve out time for ME. I know it may sound selfish but I assure you there is nothing wrong with making sure your needs are met. In fact I find that I am better at handling my routine and serving the needs of others when I take care of myself. Thursday I noticed that I was feeling more tired than usual and easily annoyed. After spending time reading my bible I was reminded that I needed to take time for rest.

God rested after creating and he wasn't even tired. We are humans, yet we tackle the world and our to do list like we are gods. So in effort to do better and be better on Saturday I added myself to my To Do List. I managed to find 35 minutes to take time out for myself to get a pedicure. It's amazing how a small act of self care can revive you.

Years ago I read a book that encouraged self care, I said it was something I wanted to do but never got around to it. This year I am determined to do things for myself - I date my friends, my husband, and my family members. So I can surely date myself. Dating yourself doesn't have to cost money. In fact I wrote out a list of 20 things I like to do an many of them don't involve spending a thing.

Self Care List

FUN Things

  1. Read
  2. Listen to Music
  3. Watch A Movie
  4. Travel
  5. Go to the Beach/Picnic
  6. Painting & Crafts
  7. Walks/Sightseeing
  8. Bargain Shop
  9. Girl's Night Out
  10. Gardening
  1. Decluttering
  2. Baking
  3. Getting My Hair Done
  4. Bible Study
  5. Mani/Pedi Time
  6. Exercise
  7. Eating Healthy
  8. Waxing
  9. Writing
  10. Drinking Tea
Your Turn: When was the last time you did something nice for yourself? Make a list of 20 things you could 10 for fun and 10 that make you feel better. What would be at the top of your list?


  1. Pedicures would be mine!! It's always a treat for me since I don't do it too often, but I just LOVE THEM!!! xoxo I love that you have made a list, what a smart idea :)

  2. Ooh reading and taking a bubble bath would be at the tops of my lists. Also, doing anything outside. I am so tired of winter and being cooped up inside! I would love to go to a park, sit on a bench and read without freezing!

  3. What an interesting way to approach self-care (esp. when things that make me feel better aren't necessarily fun at first - cough-exercising-cough...) I like the balance of fun and maintenance!

  4. You go girl! Taking care of yourself allows you to better take care of others! Yesterday, I got a massage and a facial because I totally deserve it!


  5. I love this! I definitely need to get better at carving out "me" time (:

  6. Yes! Dating ourselves and self care are absolutely important and we really don't do enough of it. Thanks for the reminder!

  7. Manis and pedis. Ohhh man. Sounds so amazing!

  8. I really like what you said about God taking time to rest...even the God of the universe knew self-care was/is important to our emotional/spiritual livelihood!! :)
    Today I took time for some baking, a movie, and I just finished some prayer time.

  9. You are so on point! I was just sharing my sentiments about this with a friend today. I woke up depressed recently (*gasp*, shouldn't have but I was) and mostly it was because I had/have grown weary of the same routines. Like "what am I looking forward to because this day is basically just like all my other Mondays, or Tuesdays, etc). Every week my "To Do" list is pretty long and usually carries over each day and so I think I might need to date myself too. I guess I might need to make that other list of fun stuff for me. Thanks, as always! :-)

  10. You're right. Self-care is so important, lest we go insane. Pedicures do it for me, along with acupuncture. Also, sleeping in the sun in my backyard and saying "no" a little more often. Oh, and healthy clean food....

    I'm glad you're carving out YOU time. There is no better time than now to take care of yourself.

  11. I love this list! What a great idea. I'm going to make a list of my own as I've not been taking very good care of myself lately.


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