Ignored at the Movies!

15 October 2013

Another week has gone by in my October goal to be Mr.Fixit's biggest cheerleader. First I want to say that with all my goals I am trying to make them constant in my life. I didn't set goals for August and September just to quit them in October. So I don't think it needs to be said that I am working on all of these things simultaneously. 
Cave Tubing in Belize
Last week I told you guys how my plans for my husbands birthday were a bust. With the first day of celebrating starting off on a bad foot I was leery about moving forward for the next few days. However on Tuesday the sun came out and shined brightly and we proceed to that days activity. We headed to the movie with plans of catching the first film of the day. Unfortunately the staff at the movie theatre opened the doors 30 minutes late and their was a crowd of us movie goers standing outside. Now you all know how much I hate waiting and as much as I wanted to gripe about standing outside and being ignored I didn't. I can't say that the thoughts weren't flooding my head but I surely didn't need to let them come out of my mouth.

Surprisingly my husband who is super calm, always collected, and slow to anger said that he was annoyed. I think he was most annoyed because the staff walked passed us continually while see were outside and didn't even acknowledge us. They also didn't offer any apologies when they let us in, they halfheartedly said they lost track of time. When I saw him becoming annoyed I said it was okay that we had the whole day to ourselves and we still had hours to have fun. Once they opened the doors it was as if all were forgotten. He held my hand and we picked up his free birthday drink from the concession stand - I always bring my own snacks to the movies. In my mind I did have a little worry about the time wasted but your encouragement on last weeks post helped me get through. I was reminded that memories are made in spontaneity. So this was an opportunity to be spontaneous. 


What I learned this week is that being my husband's biggest cheerleader doesn't count only when he's up but also when he's down, frustrated and annoyed. Luckily for me he's up more than he is down and he's happy more than he's sad. I also learned that my reaction can change how he perceives things. If I had started ranting about how late these people were no doubt it would have started a frenzy between the movie goers and movie theatre workers and that wouldn't have been good for any of us. Not only did I work on my goal to speak life giving words and to encourage - I also overcame an obstacle in being patient. I still have a ways to go where my thoughts are concerned but overall I am happy with this progress. I have to give glory to God for helping me to work on myself and sending me wonderful readers who share their stories so that we can encourage and inspire each other as wives and even significant others in courting relationships. 

Our celebrating is over and our week is back to normal. It's my goal to not let everyday task get me frazzled again. I am praying to God for help in making sure that all my words are used for good.

Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them. Ephesians 4:29 NLT

Your Turn: What are your goals for your relationships? When you spouse or significant other is upset how do you calm them down?

8 comments:

  1. Love Ephesians 4:29 - I think it's so beautiful you mention not to only support him when he is up, but when he is down too! I have yet to see Colby mad/upset!!! He is Mr. Patience and Calm! Me on the other hand is a whole different story!

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  2. Good for you for turning a frustrating situation into an opportunity to remain positive with your husband! Easier said than done a lot of times! My goal is to be more positive about the unknown. There are so many unknowns in our life, but my attitude affects my husband's, so I need to be more mindful of that! Thanks for sharing this Charity!

    XOXO
    Chelsea
    http://anchorsaweigh-ouradventure.blogspot.com/

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  3. I am never good at being spontaneous and when things get in the way of my plans, I get grumpy!!! I'm glad you enjoyed the day instead of letting it get to you :)

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  4. It has been a hard few months for us, this week seemed like the peak so I have been doing everything I can to remind my husband that together we will get through it. Together we can get to the other side!

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  5. Way to go! It's frustrating when you're waiting and being ignored by staff but I'm glad you didn't let it get to you and encouraged your husband to see past the frustrating moments. It's the small things!

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  6. I just wanted to stop by and say that I think you and the hubs make a really great team! You're blessed to have each other. Hope you have a fantastic rest of this week! :-)

    p.s. I did make your pumpkin bread on Sunday. Yum. :-)

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  7. Awesome good job. Sometimes its so hard to bite your tongue but it often is the best medicine. I agree with what you said about how your reaction can change how he perceives things and I TOTALLY agree. I've learnt over time that hubby doesn't have to hear all the crazy woman things in my brain because often its just whinging or saying it for the sake of saying it. And it really does have a negative reaction to his mood if I do rant and rave about certain things. Makes me happier in the long run too by keeping it positive! :)
    And you know men are funny I hardy find hubby down or angry....I ask him sometimes are you okay whats up you happy...just at random moments...his answer is ALWAYS "i'm always happy, no need to be sad happy all the time!".

    Though that goes hand in hand with me asking him if he's hungry...which I always get the same response "I'm always hungry" lol...simple lovely creatures they are xx

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  8. I loved reading this post!! I think I was supposed to "stumble" on your blog today. I'd love to challenge myself to be my husbands biggest cheerleader. <3

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