What Did You Say Honey?

06 August 2013

Hey Loves!! In another post I talked about how investing in your marriage is important for intimacy which is why I am linking up with Kalyn and Amberly to share with you my monthly marriage goals. I know it sounds a little odd but goals are important for anything you plan to do for the long haul! People set goals for work, fitness, and life in general so why not with marriage? 

For this months my goals for my marriage are to:

Be a better listener.
Be more patient.
Be kinder.

These things may sound easy but I promise you they are truly a challenge in a marriage. It is easy for most me to talk about my feelings, desires, hopes and dreams - well this month I want to hear more from my husband. Almost a year ago we did the love languages test and when he was responding to one of the questions he stated that he did not feel heard all the time. What a blow that was to my wife ego, since that day I have tried to listen to him more but I want to make August the month that I am more intentional about it.

Along with being a better listener I am also seeking to be more patient. For me my trouble with listening comes with my lack of patience. Since I was a kid I have always wanted anyone talking to me to get to the point, unfortunately if it does grab me in the first 10-20 words I tune out. No I don't have an attention problem and although I hate labels I admit that I am a borderline Type A personality.

Lastly my goal to be kinder is important in being a better listener. Honestly don't you see it as rude when someone ignores you or tunes you out? Well I do, and I really don't want to make my husband or anyone else feel that way.

Throughout this month I want to work on being the safe place where my husband will feel heard and know that his words are cherished by me. After all God created me to be his helpmate, lover, friend, and confidant. I know that being a better listener will promote a deeper intimacy in our marriage. This area has always been a challenge for me so I would like to face it head on. 

Are you married or in a courtship? Do you have any goals that you would like to share? Link Up Here.

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  1. So many head nods and "yes, I do that too..." in this post. Honestly, I've just working hard at just being intentional in general in my marriage. That may sound weird, but I have been really feeling like I haven't been putting my best effort forward as a wife lately. Our men need to feel special! I mean, as much as they make us feel special. Have a an amazing day Charity!:)

  2. Sometimes even when they do not make us feel special for some reason, we must make them feel special anyways and respect them. Paying attention to them, listening, been kinder and more more more patient are ways to respect. Of course we need to receive that too.... but maybe there are moments when we need to teach them wisely. It's hard sometimes... but God gives us wisdom... so we can do it! I have some goals in my marriage... and WE have some goals. I need to think more about that and set priorities. Thanks for sharing Charity! :) GBU.

    xoxo Tayrina

  3. I love your three goals and their purpose! It is great! thank you for linking up!

  4. What a wonderful list of things you want to do to improve your marriage this month. You are truly a blessing to your husband.

  5. Ooooh, I'm so glad you posted this because it's almost like you're pointing a finger at me, too. I'm so bad about tuning things out sometimes!

  6. This is a great start to marriage goals! I am so glad you brought up the fact of the love language test because I also had some major wife ego issues when Tony responded to some of the topics. I cannot wait to see how you carry out these goals, which I know you will already be fabulous at! Thanks so much for linking up with us and thank you for also always striving for success and intentionality in your marriage relationship!

  7. I so admire your desire to be a better woman and wife!! I definitely need help in the patience area. My husband has endless patience, and me - well, not so much! haha...

  8. Me too! Love this post! I understand completely! My Husband is also a man of few words so it makes it easy to ramble on so I fill the quietness!

  9. That's such a great idea! I know exactly what you mean about the blows to the wife ego. I've only been married for 5 months now, but I'm just starting to get an idea of just how hard (and how rewarding) marriage can be! :)

  10. Being patient is NOT easy for me. What a great goal! I'm planning on linking up next week. I love this series!

  11. Love this. Thanks for sharing.

    Catherine (your newest follower)


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